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Trauma · Nov 19, 2025
Signs You Have Suffered Trauma as a Child.
Childhood trauma is not always obvious. Many people imagine “trauma” as something dramatic—physical abuse, severe neglect, or exposure to violence. But…
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September 17, 2026Clinical supervision can sharpen therapeutic skills, strengthen case formulation, improve the therapeutic alliance, and help clinicians remain thoughtful…
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Relationships · Jul 30, 2025
“What Is a Codependent Relationship?”
So, let’s slow this down and just talk for a minute—no labels, no judgment. Just two people trying to make sense of something that feels confusing or…
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Self-esteem · Sep 24, 2024
Understanding Shame & How to Overcome It
Shame is a universal human emotion that can profoundly impact our well-being and interpersonal relationships. Unlike guilt, which is focused on a…
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Anxiety · Aug 21, 2024
How to Reduce Anxiety Without a Therapist
Anxiety is a common struggle for many, impacting daily life and overall well-being. While therapy can be incredibly beneficial, not everyone has access…
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Practice · Jul 19, 2024
Psychotherapy: Why Once Weekly?
Weekly psychotherapy sessions are a standard practice, but why? Some evidence suggests that this frequency can be beneficial for many patients. Here are…
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Relationships · Apr 30, 2024
The Invisible Architects: How Our Parents Shape Our Beliefs
Parents serve as the first and most influential architects of our belief systems. From the moment of our inception, they imbue us with values,…
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Cognitive therapy · Jan 17, 2024
Building Emotional Tolerance to Life's Up and Downs
Albert Ellis considered tolerance to be a crucial and essential aspect of mental health within the framework of Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT).…
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Practice · Oct 17, 2023
Making Your Therapy Sessions: Evidence Behind Regular Attendance
The importance of regular attendance in psychotherapy sessions is supported by a substantial body of evidence. Consistent attendance has been linked to…
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Anxiety · Sep 26, 2023
What is Fear?
Fear is a complex and multifaceted emotion that has been the subject of extensive psychological research. Researchers have explored various aspects of…
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Self-awareness · Sep 22, 2023
Finding Your Harmony: Understanding Ego-Syntonic Thoughts and Behaviors
In the realm of psychology, the human mind is a complex tapestry of thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. Among these intricate threads, some aspects…
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Self-compassion · Sep 10, 2023
How to Overcome Guilt
Guilt is a powerful and complex emotion that we all experience at some point in our lives. Whether it's due to a mistake we've made, a hurtful action, or…
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Development · Sep 7, 2023
Stages of Development: A Journey from Infancy to Adulthood
Developmental psychology is a captivating field that explores how humans grow, learn, and change throughout their lives. It delves into the intricate…
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Well-being · Jul 24, 2023
Finding Serenity: 5 Steps to Cultivate Peace and Balance in Life
We all have a desire to experience peace, balance, and serenity in our lives. However, the demands and stresses of daily life can make it difficult to…
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Parts work · Jun 30, 2023
What is Parts Work Therapy?
Parts work is an important therapeutic process that helps to uncover and work through difficult emotions and experiences in a safe and non-judgmental…
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Parts work · May 23, 2023
Understanding the Inner Child: Embracing Our Authentic Self
Deep within each of us resides a part of our psyche known as the "inner child." This concept, popularized by psychology and self-help movements, refers…
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Cognitive therapy · Mar 31, 2023
You Are What You Believe. The REBT Model.
Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) is a form of cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) developed by psychologist Albert Ellis in the 1950s. REBT is…
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Well-being · Feb 8, 2023
Simple Steps to Improve Your Life
Simple changes can make a big difference in your life. Here are a couple of them:
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Meditation · Sep 29, 2022
Podcast: Zen Wisdom For Your Everyday Life
Discovering a new, meaningful podcast is a rare event. So, today I am sharing with my readers a recommendation. A great podcast. Each episode is a zen…
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Relationships · Jul 14, 2022
Important Steps to a Good Relationship
Fear is a significant factor in relationships. It confuses our mind, undermines our confidence and prevents us from making choices that would be healthy…
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Meditation · Apr 29, 2022
A Guided Ten Minute Mindfullness Meditation
There is a vast amount of scientific evidence which demonstrates how meditation changes our brains and provides enormous benefits to our emotional…
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Addiction · Oct 5, 2021
OCD and Addiction
Most people think about anxiety and depression when mental illness is mentioned because these are two of the most common conditions. Another very common…
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Relationships · Jan 6, 2021
Attachment Styles In Romantic Adult Relationships
Initially, attachment research answered how children connected to their primary caregiver. This research was extended to adult romantic relationships.…
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Practice · Dec 26, 2020
The Right Therapist?
Your progress in therapy is the ultimate indicator of whether or not you are working with the right therapist. After all, regardless of how competent or…
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Relationships · Jul 24, 2020
5 Ways To Increase Joy in a Relationship
Usually we enter relationships hoping they will make us happy. We hope that this one is the right one, that we are not repeating mistakes of the past,…
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Attachment Theory · Nov 7, 2019
Anxious Resistant Attachment
This paper presents a case of an elderly woman, Jane May, who had her first psychotic break at the age of 79 years old not long after the death of her…
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Anxiety · Nov 4, 2016
About Anxiety 101
Occasional anxiety is a normal part of life. You might feel anxious when faced with a problem at work, before taking a test, or making an important…
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Self-esteem · Feb 26, 2016
How to Achieve Inner Security in 3 Steps
Most of us believe that our happiness and security are dependent upon our relationships, work, income and the external events that take place in our…
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Depression · July 19, 2016
Treating Depression
Depression is a common but serious mood disorder that can affect how a person feels, thinks, sleeps, eats, works, and manages daily life.
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